My bf and I have been together for 2 years. He’s going on a business trip for 4 days with another female coworker. He told me they’re grabbing dinner together alone. I’m okay with this as I don’t expect him to hang alone in his hotel room.
He then mentioned they would probably grab drinks too. I said I was a little uncomfortable by them drinking together. My bf liked to party and I doubt that he would just get one drink. They’re going to a huge party town and I have a feeling he wants to be out all night. I asked him if he could please just do one or two drinks at a bar and then go back to the hotel. I don’t feel comfortable with them being out all night drunk together.
He’s pushing back and saying I’m acting like he loves her and they’re just friends and it’s not fair. I asked if he would be ok with me grabbing drinks one in one with a male colleague of mine and he said it’s not the same. That he’s being forced to be with her and he just wants to go have fun on the town.
My bf has violated my trust multiple times in the past. I’m already having a hard time with him going out of town and now he’s acting super defensive about drinking with her. He asked what he could do to make me feel comfortable and at ease and I told him the above and now he’s acting super pouty.
How do I handle this moving forward?
Tl;dr bf is going on a business trip with female collegue and what’s to drink with her one on one.