I (F21) have been in a very happy, loving, supporting relationship with my absolutely wonderful boy (M25) for a year and a half now. For the context, I also have diagnosed anxiety and depression, but I’ve been going to therapy and taking meds for a while now, so the symptoms are not so present anymore. Anyway, for the first year of our relationship, our s\*x life was great, fulfilling, we had s\*x at least 2 times a week and even twice a day, every day if we went on vacation or something.
In September 2023 I’ve been dealing with some serious stress regarding my studies, I was about to fail a class and since me being high achiever, it really took a toll on me – this is when our s\*x life started declining. In October it was new academic year, new responsibilities, new stresses and that deff didn’t help the situation, but when we went away for few days during Toussaints holidays and I could relax a bit, my s\*x drive finally came back. And away, when we returned back home. During Christmas/new years holidays, the problem only deepened, tho we went for few days stay at the seaside. Then I also started to feel uncomfortable during flirty touches. Since new years, we have had s\*x twice, 8 February and 2 March. Yes it’s so rare and such an event I know the dates.
I still love my boyfriend so so much and I do find him very attractive and s\*x with him was always great and I still enjoy the thought of it (but tbh sometimes I find even the thought itself uncomfortable), but I can’t make myself actually do the deed. Even if i try, I can’t get wet. I also don’t really “play” with myself. I often miss s\*x and I’m afraid that my issue will start to affect our relationship, tho my bf is really understanding of it. Have any of you experienced that, how do I help myself?