Hello,
I have been in a relationship for over three years with my partner. It’s been a fantastic relationship and he’s been a great bf. When we first started dating we realized that although our hobbies are different we have many similar priorities. I truly felt like we were a fantastic couple, in our own goofy way.
Over time my partner has become increasingly busy with school and I feel like we have sort of plateaued in our relationship. We still do spend time together but it doesn’t necessarily feel like I’m connecting with him and can’t figure out why. It feels like I am putting effort into the relationship but something isn’t there. I feel like I’ve become indifferent to spending time with him and often feel like I need a lot of personal time away from him.
I would describe our relationship as steady for the most part. He definitely has a higher libido than I do and that has been a point of contention (and many tears). He has also mentioned to me a few different times that he can’t meet some of my needs. I love getting small or handmade gifts and he’s told me that isn’t something he can do, and has told me that he can’t console me the way I need. All in all it often feels like sometimes I give more than I receive. It hurts, but am willing to put up with it.
Anyways, we recently found out that we will be moving out of state for a school related internship and I’m very nervous. I love this man, but our relationship hasn’t been the same for a bit and I’ve been second guessing our relationship for a few weeks now. I’m not sure if my anxiousness being away from friends and family are playing a role in this but regardless I feel like I need to make a decision soon.
All in all I just can’t tell if I am losing feelings or not. I am going off of ssris but am not sure if that makes a huge impact? Does anyone have similar experience with this kind of situation? I’m not looking for an answer to my issue, just HOW to make a decision. If you’ve found yourself in this kind of situation before how did you come to make your decision? I have never been in a long term relationship like this before and it hurts to even think about breaking his heart.
TLDR: Idk if I’m falling out of love with my partner and don’t know how to figure it out.