My partner and I have been together for almost 7 years.
He says sex for him is how he receives love from me, how he feels connected to me, and how he shows love to me.
He’s threatening to leave me if we don’t have more sex; this is his requirement, or he will not continue our relationship.
I don’t like to have sex when I feel unloved or when he is being hateful/mean for long periods of time. Yes, I’ve told him. He says no sex is the reason for this behavior.
We do have very good sex and always have, but we don’t do it that often anymore. Maybe a couple of times a month. For multiple reasons: anger, frustration, pregnancy w/ terminations, plan B resentment, didn’t shower yet, need to shave, etc.
This makes me feel like his love is conditional and if i don’t have sex with him, I am unlovable. Like this was the only reason he was with me to begin with. To use me as a body to f\*k and to build his self-esteem.
Should I try to work on us or just let him leave?