Women who knowingly accepted to be ‘The Other Woman’: Why did you do it?

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1. I didn’t know that I was The Other Woman ™️ until after I was married, but I accept that that was me. That he paid more attention to me while he was with someone else and eventually left them for me.

   We’re still married, and honestly doing a lot better than earlier in the marriage after I found out.

   We’re truly best friends now.

2. His wife was a raging abusive alcoholic and he told me he was in the process of leaving.

   Then, she got sober.

   It was all a bit bittersweet, but in the end I believe it worked out exactly how it was supposed to. I’m so glad for her sobriety; she and him and their children are so much better off.

3. Honestly, I didn’t care. I didn’t want a serious relationship anyway. He made his wife sound terrible – no idea if true, but it was easy to believe she deserved it since she didn’t matter to me. 

   Yeah I was selfish, but at this point in my life, after years of always holding back in favor of others i had realized this behavior is pretty thankless and, well, holds you back. 

   Wouldn’t do this again because I’ve found that sweet spot between doormat and jerk by now.

4. A guy in my work’s mother was the Other Woman – in fact, her and her partner were both married to other people and had kids with them. They both split from their partners, got married, and stayed together for many years until she died. Her kids don’t like him, but they didn’t like their father either (both of them seem like nasty guys).

5. I know a woman who stayed only because she was scared she wouldn’t be able to provide for her children if she filed for divorce