Last year my M30 gf F28 and I moved coasts together to a place where we don’t know anyone. I have a decent salaried job so we had an agreement that she would get a job and pay what she could of the rent proportional to her income. She quickly got a minimum wage job and couldn’t stand to work full time so she worked about 20-30 hours instead. Fast forward a year and she is unhappy with the job so she quit before lining up another one. This decision does not put a financial burden on me per se, but it does hurt my ability to save and it feels very uneven. She seems to have big ideas of what she could be doing with her life instead but she puts in basically zero action and i’m getting really tired of it. I have suggested she go back to school (she dropped out) or any number of other jobs but she simply refuses and says that she will be miserable in service or retail and I don’t blame her.
At this rate if I end things she will have nothing here and essentially have no choice but to move way back home with her parents which I know would devastate her. She is otherwise a great partner, supportive, helps around the apartment, intimacy is healthy, but I’m just left with this hollow feeling that swells up for a day or two and then I have to let pass. I think i’ve told myself that this must be what it’s like to be in a committed adult relationship but logically it just seems off.
If anyone has been in a similar situation in your relationship Id really appreciate any advice you have.
TL:DR My gf quit her job and i’m thinking of ending things