My girlfriend (25F) and I (26F) have been dating for a little over a year. We moved in together about 6 months ago (very fast, I know) and everything has been pretty good, despite a few major fights. These have largely stemmed from her contributing no money towards the rent, utilities, or council tax. Before we moved in together we agreed everything would be 50/50, hence my annoyance. I have become increasingly concerned about this, as although she repeatedly blames it on issues with the bank transfer system or other similar excuses, I feel like I’m being used at this stage. She does pay for a significant amount of our groceries, but that is about it.
I gave a pretty clear ultimatum a couple of weeks ago saying this could not continue, to which she said that’s fair and she would have the money over in a few days. This didn’t happen, I said why not, she said she’d call her bank and sort it out. That never happened. Over the past week I have found a new flat and have begun the process to rent it out. I am planning on telling my girlfriend in a few days.
My main reason for posting her is for advice on if I am somehow misreading this situation. She says she has a full-time job, and when I’ve asked if there’s any debt or other reasons why she can’t pay me she has said no. I feel like moving out will end the relationship, which would really suck as it is quite good besides this obvious major issue and dealbreaker. I have tried to talk to her multiple times, both softly and firmly, to try and sort out what is going on. But after 6 months, I feel played, despite everything else being great.
Any advice here would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.