TLDR – My GF (F37) for ten months, we’re in a “committed” relationship, decided to book a month-long vacation to Thailand without telling me (35M).
The vacation is already booked. There’s not getting out of it now. She booked it a few weeks ago while I was out here. I would never do that. I would consult, communicate, tell her any plans that involve me leaving my home for more than a few days. I think this is poor communication. Am I wrong? I’m not invited, I’m not told. How does this impact plans? We’ve had several conversations about plans and calendars, and this never came up?
Am I being unreasonable? My gut tells me this is not right. She said she’s sorry. But it’s not like she’s cancelling the trip that we could do something together. A full month in Thailand? It would have been OK, I guess had she talked it over with me. Now I just think there is something else going on. Is this normal? Would YOU do that in a serious relationship?
There is an issue of trust here for me. A month away in an exotic country by yourself sounds unusual. I would never consider that. She hasn’t been in a relationship for a long time and is used to doing things themselves. I’m afraid of what will happen next if the thinking is that this is OK. Maybe a relationship isn’t what she wants. Thank you for your answers.