So.. as the title states, I want a man whom I am attracted to and can keep up with me sexually. It is tough for me however because, firstly, I am attracted to very few men, and secondly, I still need that emotional connection and to feel safe with him. I do not want want a fling, at all.
I am finding that most men on dating sites who have high sex drives, usually look for women who put out easily, and a lot of men who are looking for relationships I have met and gotten to know, don’t have much of a sex drive. Now I have met men who genuinely want a relationship who are also very sexual, but even they can’t seem to wait a bit for it.
I have tried many different tactics, like telling the guy after he gets pushy about how I am in bed, and that I find him attractive, but just that I need to meet him atleast a few times, etc. But they can’t wait for it. they can’t just have normal conversations without getting incredibly sexual or they ignore me except to talk about sex.
I also prefer to dress modestly, but men seem to take that as me being a prude. Which I am definetly not. However, if i do put bikini photos on my profile, once again it attracts the wrong men.
I am clearly struggling with online dating… any advice is welcome 😅