Here’s the summary. In the past she had a husband that cheated on her. And I’m a very social guy that does not see gender. And prior to coming into this relationship I had about seven close female friends including a best friend.
And while we were dating I made this explicitly clear to her. To the point of outright telling her that she should not date me if she has a problem with me being . To the point of outright telling her that she should not date me if she has a problem with other women. But she reassured me and told me that as long as the friendships were innocent and appropriate they would not be an issue.
A few months later. I’m not exaggerating anytime I mention another woman to her she gets bonkers. Like today, I’ve had a female Barber that I’ve been going to for 4 years now. And consistently seeing this person twice a month for 4 years you get close to someone. And I told my barber about a trip that we were taking this weekend and she asked if she could meet my girlfriend next time she’s in town.
So I told this to my girlfriend and she started going on a insecurity rampage asking a million questions and then getting silent and locking up. And this isn’t the first time this has happened.
But what are my options here?
I’ve tried transparency and that has not worked for me. So please help me hear you all what can I do to help her get past this?