My boyfriend of 8 years wants to move into his own place after living together for seven years. We’re both 25 and I’ve been out of a job for 4 months for the second time. He says he loves me and we should practice celibacy because I have all the qualities of a wife he wants he just doesn’t think he is ready for the next step because he still finds other women attractive and has a crush on his coworker. We were originally talking about downsizing due to my job problem, his coworker told him about the complex that was cheaper than where we were staying, however after I saw the apartment and how standoffish he was for me to come to the viewing it made me feel awful. His crush co-worker was the one who told him about the place and she is going to be next door. We have both been crying all week long. For the last 3 years, we had a serious uptake of ups and downs and hardships and two deaths in our families. I don’t want to lose him. He has never asked for a break or a break up our entire relationship
There have been issues with my insecurities when it comes to his female coworkers, he is a charming guy and women seem to feel safe spilling their guts to him and he loves to take on a sorta of bug brother role. When we first moved in with each other I was about to get kicked out of my living situation and his and his mom’s relationship was declining and he felt like he needed to leave to save it. I love him very deeply and he has always been my rock and vice versa, however, I just have this sinking feeling that he wants to end the relationship and doesn’t want to hurt me because of our shared history. He says he thinks he should live alone to work out his issues so that he can one day be able to marry me, but on the other hand says that it doesn’t feel right to just leave me. What do I do? Is this fixable? I’m so confused and heartbroken.