What would your initial and later thoughts be if you found someone else’s thong in the nightstand drawer of someone you’ve been dating for say 3-10 dates or so?

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1. I’d think “well that’s what I get for snooping through someone’s private shit”

2. “Dude is def fucking. I need to determine my boundaries and communicate them.”

3. They’re probably his.

4. If I’m not exclusive and he’s shown me his STI results, I don’t give a shit.

5. Depends on if I like him enough to want to be exclusive.

6. I’d probably just assume it’s hers and not care

7. Sincerely, “ew” because touching somebody else’s thong is what I get for rummaging through a bedside table but it’s still really freaking gross.

8. I’d think they have an SO bc who else would they belong to? He kept one from a random hookup or buddy waiting to give it back to her?

9. My initial thoughts would be he’s a panty sniffer. My later thoughts would be to hide all my dirty underwear.

10. I’d be a little shocked and confused initially. Then I’d realize that we haven’t discussed exclusivity yet so I cannot fault him for dating others (if that’s even the case).

    Then I’d check in with myself. Finding the thong will cause one of two reactions in me. I want to be exclusive or I don’t care.

    If I want to be exclusive, I’ve bring it up and say hey found this, my bad, none of my business, we haven’t talked about exclusivity yet, but I realized I do care and want to be exclusive.

11. Who knows how long it’s been there?? Legit possibility that it’s from a while ago and he’s just forgotten about it or didn’t think to clear up. But also if exclusivity is important maybe now is the time for that conversation.

12. 3-10 dates?

    Honestly that’s a short time period. I have things pop up from a year ago I forgot about .

    Wouldn’t sweat it