Hi Reddit,
I’m posting here in the hope of getting some advice.
I’m a 33 year old man born and currently living in Canada.
I’m single and have never been married/have no children. I recently ending a relationship with a lady I had been seeing for about 3 months. After our time together, I was already unhappy in our relationship and decided that we weren’t really compatible. Not to mention that she was sexually pretty inhibited. I think we had sex maybe 4 times in the 3 months we were together.
I’m starting to feel a little discouraged about dating. I have been dating since I was in my late teens. Throughout my twenties, my relationships usually lasted between 6 months to a year, and I was usually the one who ended them. I got to the point where I felt that the relationship was no longer a net positive in my life. Eventually my partner would begin to aggravate me or it became apparent to me that we weren’t compatible. Regardless, I always began to felt like the relationship was taking more away from my life than it was contributing.
Last year I dated a woman for about 5 months before I had to admit to myself that, although I loved her personality, I wasn’t very physically attracted to her and that I felt relieved when I wasn’t with her.
Objectively speaking, I think I have a lot going for me dating-wise…at least on a superficial level. I’m tall, well-educated, have been told I am good looking, and I have a good job.
Despite my efforts to try and find someone, I keep ending up in the same spot, and I don’t know why. I’m staring to wonder if there is something wrong with me – a cliché, I know. I just don’t understand why it seems so difficult to find mutual attraction and make a relationship work.
I wouldn’t say that I am ready to give up, because that obviously doesn’t help. I’m just starting to feel down about my situation and bad about myself. Most of my friends are married or in serious relationships.
Any insight/helpful advice is appreciated.
Thanks.