My girlfriend and I have a night away planned next weekend. We haven’t been away in quite a while so we planned to go to a city we both really like. Last weekend her friends asked if she wanted to meet up on Friday (yesterday) and she agreed.
My girlfriend mentioned to me she didn’t have a lot of money because of going away next week so she wouldn’t be out too long. She ended up staying out a lot longer than expected and when she came back she mentioned she’d spent a lot more than she planned since her friends wanted to go to a few bars and she didn’t want to say no to them.
She mentioned that I’d have to pay for next week since she can no longer afford it. I told her no and that I shouldn’t have to pay just because she decided to spend more money with her friends. I said I’d happily lend her the money and she can pay me back after she gets paid but she said no and that I’m wrong for even suggesting that.
I pointed out it’s her who didn’t budget her money and decided to go overbudget with her friends and that it shouldn’t be me paying for that. She said I was being unsympathetic but I just reminded her that she knew we were going away so should have set money aside for it instead of spending it with her friends.
She just said she was sorry but that I’ll either need to pay of we’ll cancel because she’s not lending the money off me. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?
tl;dr my girlfriend and I had plans for next weekend. She went out with friends this weekend and ended up spending too much. She now just expects me to pay for her for the full night and said I’m being unfair by offering to lend her the money instead.