My wife and I are both 32 and have been together for 10 years. We have been married the past 5 years and I’m starting to notice that we almost always go from making love to being in a little tiff afterwards. She says she feels insecure because she takes a lot longer to finish than me and it’s just frustration. But it comes out of left field for me. One minute I’m on this high because we just smashed and the next minute she’s got this look of despair on her face like she’s going through some deep shit and she tries to say it’s nothing. But I know she’s not okay by the way she says it ( kinda like holding back tears). I don’t know how to approach this situation because when I bring up the “cycle” it puts her into a defensive position and I’m just looking to bring it to her attention. Let me know what y’all think
TL;DR: my wife starts a fight/tiff shortly after sex. Sometimes an hour later sometimes the next morning. Says she is frustrated with how long it takes for her to come but it seems to happen even if she comes.