My boyfriend and I have been together for five years now. About six months ago, we moved out of our condo and into our respective parents homes to save money to hopefully buy a house. My boyfriend has a need to be on the phone with me CONSTANTLY. I personally don’t really enjoy being on the phone that much. It’s not my thing. It’s also important to note that I work a customer service job and spend all day on the phone so by the time I am done with my 10 hour shifts, my social battery is very low and sometimes the last thing I wanna do is talk on the phone. My boyfriend interprets me not wanting to be on the phone with him from the second I get off work until I go to bed is me not loving him and him not being a priority in my life. How do I make him understand that his constant need to be on the phone is smothering me and just because I need a break from talking at the end of my workday doesn’t mean that I don’t love him?
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Honestly you already sound incompatible me and my partner are on the phone calling videoing to actually to stuff together and spend time as a LDR, since your too drained from your job and cant really provide that time together whereas for him he wants to be with you quite literally as soon as he can be so either dude needs to be fine with not getting as much time as he wants with you or you wont work
Also being with your partner shouldnt require a social battery or feel like your just socialising with more people in your life it should feel relaxing and help recharge your battery not feel like its draining a shouldnt exist social battery with your partner
Tbh you just did a good job of explaining it… Have you told him what you said here?