People largely do what they want to do. When someone wants something they put in effort and make things happen especially when given the greenlight to do so. When you are trying to date someone I need you to understand that people make time for what they want. Always. Pretty much 100% of the time.
This doesn’t mean that people are always available. This is the part people always get wrong and the types of people who tell you they are too busy get defensive about. There are alsways exceptions…but they probably don’t apply to your situation. Yes, you can be busy, you can work late, you can be tired of course…but when you care about the person you say you want, you work with them. You don’t freeze them out and give them a blanket “I’m busy”, indefinitely and tell them that they have to deal with it. You give them something to work with because you’re actually interested. One of the best examples I can give is if someone says something like “Hey I’d love to take you out, how about Wednesday?” And let’s say you’re unavailable on Wednesday, instead of saying “Nope sorry not free on Wednesday” you instead say “I’m sorry I have plans on Wednesday but what about Thursday or Sunday I’m free both evenings”. The difference is effort. Showing the person that you care about seeing them.
Someone who isn’t interested in you will make minimal or no effort and constantly make you second guess whether they are interested or what you. People who are interested in you don’t make you feel like they aren’t interested. These days so many people are unwilling to offer reassurance and instead are content to make you feel crazy all the while…they aren’t even all that interested and are looking for a way to stop talking to you altogether. It’s a cold world. Take care of your mental health and wellbeing and pay attention. Respect yourself and understand that so many people will treat you how you allow them to treat you.