Hello reddit! Well I usually like to read your stories, but this time I really need to vent. Sorry in advance about any mistakes, english is not my first language and i am drunk. So as the title tells – me and my boyfriend broke up after three years being together, because he is unsure of having kids.
A little bit of background, the first year when we were together, we were on the same page about having kids. We thought about different boy and girl names and what we want to teach them and so on. But further along he was not so sure anymore because he feels that because of his mental health it is already difficult for him to cope with his day to day tasks. And when we will have a kid, then he will fall apart, because it is already difficult for him to manage his own life.
I am not mad about it or anything, i just feel sad about our break up, because I do love him. But what are you gonna do when your partner future goals change and are against the goals what you want, I guess you cannot do anything about that. And we understood that best solution for us was a break up
But I just feel that all my sisters and close friends have kids and then there is me, who needs to start again from the scratch. I feel the pressure – I am 29, my biological clock is ticking and I do want children, I adore kids. I feel like I have missed the bus. So i would like to hear stories from you girlies who have had similar experience and in the ebd everything worked out. Because I really do feel super stressed and anxious about it. Because I really do hope to meet someone with same life goals and values, who I could love. Could you share your similar story here?