Hello!

Not sure if there are such men out there, but if you are one, I would like to know why won’t you want your woman to give you a (good) BJ?

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  1. Most of the time it’s because it’s incredibly difficult, if not impossible, for me to orgasm from them, or even really enjoy them. They stress me out due to past experiences, and I prefer to be more in control in most situations anyways.

  2. It’s not that I’m strictly opposed to bj, but they are sort of redundant to me. If a girl has particular desire to perform one then so be it.

  3. Cause she can’t do it right and it either a causes pain or b isn’t pleasurable. Same thing as a guy who can’t perform oral well on a woman. Except it’s a lot more awkward when some chick is just using your dick as a teething ring lol

  4. Honest answer most women dont know how to give good blowjobs.

    They scrape their teeth and refuse to take any direction or critic.

    In my 42 years only 2 women ever gave me a proper blowjob one was 58 and the other was a pro that gave me a freebie at a party.

    But your average woman don’t want any correction or instruction or any suggestions.

    I tried doing the above with every woman I ever got head from they all get mad and storm off and usually say and I quote ( oh SO I’m not good enough ) or something to that effect.

    It’s so bad if a woman offers me head I just grind my teeth and shake my head. When she leaves me alone i then go to Grindr and find a boy toy cause at least they know what they are doing and do it right so I can enjoy myself rather then get injured.

    Last regular playmate scraped her teeth so bad she cut my shaft base to head tip to the point I was concerned I may need stitches luckily I had some new skin spray which burned like hell but worked.

  5. The only time I’ve ever turned down a BJ is if you are incredibly bad at it. Otherwise…its the god damned best.

  7. My first experience was a bit traumatic. She was the aggressor, and wanted to fool around under the table at a party. Ended up blowing me for my first time, but she had braces and nicked me. Very minor, I didn’t know it had happened until she kissed me and I could taste blood. I saw a bit on her lip, and said something about “you’re hurt!”

    She checked herself over for a bit, and then we both saw the pinprick on my dick. She fully freaked the fuck out, threw open the table cloth, and ran off crying. Quite a few of my friends saw my dick, and I yanked the table cloth back down, zipped up, and went after her to comfort her.

    I don’t know why, but when I got to her at the other side of the room, she slapped me right across the face. I don’t know if this was her intention, but this looked to everyone in the room like I had just sexually assaulted her–an impression which she fully reinforced in the coming days. I got treated like a rapist for about a week at my high school, and had some very dangerous encounters where I narrowly avoided getting my ass beat.

    I didn’t know what to do, and I couldn’t exactly go to an adult for help. I had been trying to talk to her about it, but she was ducking me. Finally, I saw her go into the restroom and waited to confront her when she came out. I asked why she pretended like I had assaulted her, and she told me that she was too embarrassed, and didn’t want people to think she was a slut.

    The bathroom door opened behind her, and another girl that I did not know came out, and heard everything. That girl *went the fuck off* on my ex, full-on screaming like it had been done to her instead. My ex was sobbing and saying she was “so, so sorry” over and over, I think in part because she was afraid that girl was going to beat her senseless. I thought the same thing.

    Easily 50 other people witnessed this exchange, and by the end of the day my name was cleared. I wish I knew who that girl was, so that I could thank her.

    So, that. I’ve had a few BJs since, which I was already on edge about, due to my prior experience, and they’re just…awkward. They *felt good*, but it’s a weird vibe. She’s making slurping noises, and I can’t really put my hands anywhere that I would want to put them. I don’t want to do the asshole dirty talk thing, and it’s not like she could respond anyway. Honestly, it feels like sitting in the waiting room of a doctor’s office, except your penis is in someone’s mouth.

    I appreciate all the trust and attraction that a woman has to put herself in that position, but it is very much not my scene. And, if you’re going to do oral, why not just have sex, where both of you can enjoy it? Don’t come at me with that 69 shit, either; that is a ridiculous middle school fantasy that is just horribly uncomfortable and awful in reality.

  10. lol, that’s the oldest trick in the book.

    Tell a woman you don’t enjoy them and you have never finished from one. Then when she finishes you she thinks she is special and does it all the time.

  12. Half the time they don’t know what they are doing then it’s up to me to be like ok that’s enough and then come up with some bullshit excuse so they don’t feel bad

  13. Because I’ve never had a good one. It doesn’t do anything for me.

    I rather have a pussy wrapped around my dick than a mouth.

  14. Bc the only time I ever came from one, took a half hour and sucked… … … pretty bad for both parties involved. 😉

  15. I’ve never wanted one. I don’t think the sensation is right it feels like I’m having sex with a 1cm deep vagina and then it’s just open air. Or if she’s putting her tongue up it’s like an unpleasant hard pallet in the tip of my knob. Deepthoat might feel better but never got there.

  20. I’m not 100% anti-blowjobs but I prefer like, 30-60 second blowjobs as foreplay. In my mind, a woman putting my penis in her mouth is hot but it is not made more hot by doing it longer.

    The one exception to this is rolling on MDMA/ecstasy, in which case blowjobs are the sexiest, most pleasurable experience in the world.

    Also, a big part of sex for me is getting to run my hands all over her body or kiss her like it’s our last night on earth. Blowjobs keep her awkwardly out of reach. One of the many reasons I prefer nice, slow handjobs.

  21. If it hurts I’ll stop her or if I can’t finish off of it I’ll stop it otherwise I like them .

    But, more than that I feel like girls nowadays give away blowjobs like Halloween candy.
    So, I want what most guys can’t get. I want sex I want intimacy I want what nobody gets.
    I know girls who won’t kiss me on the lips because it’s intimate but, will lick my balls and slurp my nut.
    How does that make sense? Well, I think they compartmentalize what’s intimate.
    Don’t you think it’s weird how nobody nowadays holds hands down the street and everyone’s afraid to post their significant other, but, have no problem doing all the nasty shit behind the scenes. This generation is lost. And I’m trying to do what I can. Bringing that closeness of what sex is supposed to be like back. So I may refuse a blowjob in hopes of getting more down the line because if I let her suck my dick right away she’s gonna be satisfied and think she got me then leave . I don’t want that so I may play harder to get.

  23. I don’t feel a lot from them. I don’t know if it’s from circumcision or what but I have the opposite problem of some men and take a long time to orgasm. A quickie for me would be 15 minutes with an average of 20.

    Some women hate intercourse that long, the ones that do tend to be multi orgasmic though. First time I had sex I made the girl squirt lol. I thought I broke her!

    The girl of my dreams was offended I didn’t stay rock hard for her and dumped me ( early 1990s) before Viagra was affordable. Broke my heart and I felt so low for a long time.

  24. I don’t turn them down per se, but I don’t actively seek them. Blowjobs are when I need a moment in between the act or something for you to do while I get the condom ready.

    I enjoy the act of eating a girl out or having sex with her far too much that blowjobs really come in third on that totem pole.

  25. It’s better to have sex or a hand job (if they know what they’re doing)

  26. Not my favorite thing. Impossible for me to finish with it and it just doesnt feel that special to me. But if/when she wants to, I’m not stopping her.

  28. Usually because i can tell she doesnt like to give them. Or because she hates jizz and dont let me finish, i dont mean every time but just sometimes. Compare it to eating pizza and then spitting it out after chewing instead of swallowing, it just ruins the whole pleasure of it. If i wanted to cum in plain air i could might aswell be jerking it

  29. For every time I’ve heard a chick say she was good at blowjobs only to not know what the hell she was doing.

    Been with countless women, all of them say they were good at it, one out of all of them was good at it. The rest sucked. Waste of time.

  30. Wife has decided I don’t want to receive BJ’s. That’s a reason right?

  32. Bc it’s not that pleasurable. I get bored and mind wonders off and it’s really really difficult to nut from it and if the rare thing happens that i nut. I completely lose any meager interest in sex and it’s rather hard to get the partner off afterwards.
    So i don’t see the point of it.

  35. If a guy doesnt want a bj, that usually means the woman in question “sucks” at it.

  37. Because of the huge difference in enjoyment between someone who loves sucking dick and someone who gives head now and then because they feel like they’re supposed to. If you don’t love sucking dick, don’t bother. I dont need a birthday blowjob once a year.
    If you love doing it, get down there. If you don’t, then skip it

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