When faced with dwindling friendships and no family support, how do you find solace and fulfillment in your own company?

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1. Having a cat has been such a game-changer for me. Seriously, this little furball brings so much love and joy into my life, it’s unreal. There’s this special vibe between us that just clicks, you know? It’s like we’re on the same wavelength, and hanging out with my cat feels way more chill than hanging out with people sometimes.

   I mean, my cat doesn’t care about my flaws or judge me for anything. It’s just pure acceptance and love all the time. And the way we communicate? It’s like this unspoken language of cuddles, purrs, and goofy antics. No words needed, just vibes.

   Whenever I’m feeling down or stressed, my cat always knows how to lift my spirits. Whether it’s curling up together on the couch or playing with a string, just being around my cat instantly makes me feel better. It’s like having a built-in therapist who also happens to be incredibly cute and fluffy.

   Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without my cat. They’re not just a pet; they’re family. And knowing that I have this little ball of love waiting for me at home makes even the toughest days a little bit easier to bear.

2. I find solace and fulfillment in my own company by turning to journaling. I choose to share my thoughts, feelings, and experiences with myself through writing. By documenting my thoughts, I gain deeper insight into my inner world and provide myself with a platform to express emotions and process feelings. This intimate form of communication helps me foster a deeper connection with myself, leaving me feeling more content and balanced.

3. In the realm of sleep and dreams, I find solace and healing. It’s where I can truly feel my existence in another universe, away from the chaos of the waking world. Each night, I delve into the depths of my subconscious, painting the canvas of my emotions with vivid hues. Through dreams, I confront my fears and find renewal, emerging with a sense of healing and connection to my inner self.

4. I remind myself that it’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. My family is dysfunctional so I can never have a positive or normal relationship with them. Some of my friends have passed away and some only want to hang out with me when it’s convenient for them or they want something. I go on hikes with my dog, I find new recipes to try (I cook and bake). I also journal and sew. I stopped people pleasing and live for myself.

5. I like my own company most of the time, but what I struggle with is this bout of craving for company and social life and then that goes to this loop of loneliness I don’t appreciate and then after a while, I am again back to the self.

6. Solo travel..

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8. During my last bout of troubles, where life proved again that you can do everything right and still fail, it occurred to me that it isn’t a bad thing that no one can solve my problems for me but me- I am uniquely positioned to know what needs to be done. I am the expert of me- so I can hold my own hand through things. My two feet have gotten me into every single situation I’ve been in, and my own two feet can walk me out.

   Also, I’ve been reaching out to my old friends and every single person I know’s mental health and lives are imploding- sometimes you look up from the ocean and realize if you turn around you can see all the people in your same boat! Reach out, help someone through something else. We have to, despair is literally killing us. Deaths of despair rates in America have almost doubled since 2017 to a projected 100 per 100,000 Americans in 2024. Every time you show kindness towards someone you are fighting back against the callous indifference to suffering that has infected the world on a systematic level. Don’t let the bastards win, fight back by giving a fuck about the people in your life and community.