I (35F) got out of a relationship with the man I thought I’d spend my life with about 5 months ago. He broke my heart and I’m taking time and space to recover. I’m doing alright most days and I’m happy with my progress.
Now for the confusion. We have to rewind this to when I was 13-15. I had the biggest crush on a boy who was 3 years older than me. Totally inappropriate at that age, so nothing ever happened. I think he knew, but I couldn’t say for sure. He graduated when I was a freshman.
When I was in college he worked at a local grocery store and I swear he had radar every time I went into the store and he’d walk by and say hello. I graduated college and I haven’t seen / talked to him since.
He randomly messaged me about 3 weeks ago. I am super good at ignoring people who I’ve never met face-to-face, but I generally answer people I know because I don’t want to be rude. I answered and we started talking and catching up a bit. He works second shift, so there was some delay. He asked a lot of questions about my life now. This went on for about 2 weeks. Then he kind of dropped off the radar. No messages or response to the last message I sent.
What is happening here? What does he want? I don’t know if I’m ready to date again if that’s what he’s after. I think he still lives with his mom and he’s 38 or 39. Does he just randomly want to catch up after all of these years? I’m just so confused and I don’t know what to think or how to feel about it. It’s kind of a mind fuck. I’m well aware that I could very easily just ask him what he wants or why he reached out, but again, I don’t want to be rude.
Give me your thoughts, good people of Reddit!