We will have been together for 5 years in a couple months. I really love him and he seems to really love me. I’ve met his family and they like me too, they even call me on their own and haven given me very nice jewelry along side many other various things like sheets, towels, and nice plates/Jars. They even offered to take me driving when we first started dating so that I could get my driver’s license. I mostly drive now when we need to go places because he gets anxiety about driving.
When I googled this question, it was older people but they said they expected it after 6 months and I saw people that had waited 2 years with people telling them to stop waiting. We are young and live in our parents house still (rent is very expensive where we live, we both work and have been looking for a place. We have a big dog too which makes it harder)
He has bought me lots of high quality gaming stuff, an ipad, pays for our food most times, has gotten me clothes, and a pc (he mostly uses it because we live at my parents house at the moment and dont have room for both of our pcs and I like playing on my xbox) but has never gotten me expensive jewelry, I’m not a materlistic person so it never bothered me until I realized how long we’ve been together.
I saw people my age from school getting married after less than a year, I try not to compare but it did make me worry. One of my best friends who’s younger than me and got married last month to their boyfriend of 4 years.
I don’t want to ask him to about proposal because I want the surprise of it, I don’t want to have to ask him about it, but I know that he does want to marry. We have been intimate together as well and have been for a while.
My dad has a uncurable disease called Sarcoidosis that affects his lungs and has now spread to his heart (but they upped his prezidone to keep it from affecting his heart anymore) and his skin and I want him to be able to walk me down the aisle. If we wait too long I’m worried I won’t have my dad there to walk me down the aisle and I love my dad, I really want him there. My dad plans to be around for longer but he’s a stubborn guy, he has afib ontop of it all, and went into cardiac arrest last year and didn’t tell me, I found out from my mom when she was ranting about him (my parents are divorced). So I’m worried too that if my dads condition got worse, he might not even tell me and I just want him there for my wedding so bad. I always dreamed about my wedding since I was a very little girl. My boyfriend is aware of my dad’s condition and how it upsets me and worries me, he also knows I’m scared that my dad won’t be there to walk me down the aisle whenever we get married. He is sympathetic to me about it and comforts me when I’m sad about my dad and his condition.
My boyfriend and I’s 5 year anniversary is in a couple months, maybe he plans to propose then, but I don’t know and I don’t know if I’m wrong for waiting this long already and if it would be wrong or right of me to wait longer, if he does not propose on our anniversary. I feel bad for expecting it in case I’m in the wrong.
I hope my texts here made sense and I got most of the situation across well without making anything confusing.
Any advice on what I should do or if I’m right or wrong for worrying about it?