I (27f) have been dating my boyfriend (26m) on and off for a decade. Our mutual friends are getting married (we are both in the bridal party). This weekend is the bachelor weekend and the groom wanted a typical Vegas bachelor party.
Before he left, I felt like we communicated well about what was going to happen. My bf had never been to a strip club before, and I wanted him to satisfy that curiosity and have a good time with his close friends and expressed that I’m comfortable as long as there is no touching. On night one, they went to a strip club and they were there for a few hours. My bf said they were super aggressive in trying to get them to buy a private dance (grabbing arms and sitting on their chairs), and the groom didn’t find any of them super attractive.
He said they didn’t feel like it was the experience they were looking for and the groom is fixated on getting a lap dance, so they were planning on going to another strip club the next night to find more attractive women.
I feel like I was making a good compromise by being okay with him going to a strip club to see what it is about, but feel uncomfortable with him going to a second one. Now it seems like it is beyond seeing what it is about and actually wanting to be aroused by the situation. As much as I appreciate the communication, am I being unreasonable in feeling this way? I didn’t think the whole weekend would be centered around this (I also think it is kind of a disrespectful tradition)
TL;DR boyfriend (26m) ignoring my (27f) feelings of uncomfortableness on going to another strip club