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Hey everyone, I just wanted to post an update to this because a lot of people requested a follow up.
I received a lot of advice on the original post and I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who weighed in. I debated confronting him about it bluntly like many suggested, but ultimately I decided to go to the event and just observe.
He seemed a bit anxious prior to the event and I was on edge too because of basically everything I wrote in my post. He wasn’t mean or pushed me away or anything though so I let it slide. We got to the event and met up with our friends and after about half an hour I could see him relax more. I did see Maya in the crowd at one point, but I don’t think my fiancee did as he was talking to one of our friends at the time and his demeanor didn’t change. I saw her glance over our way so I know she saw us too. A couple of hours passed without incident and I had to use the bathroom so I left to go do that. I was gone for about 10-15 minutes but when I came back the vibe was off. Like he just seemed a little tense and our two other friends were also acting a bit weird. So I asked him what was up and he told me that Maya was at the event and she had approached him while I was in the bathroom. I played it cool and asked what she wanted and he said “I don’t know, she said hey and I just nodded to her and we all walked away”. I was pretty freaking proud and relieved. I gave him a big kiss and he relaxed and the rest of the night went on.
When we got home that night and were alone, I told him I had a great time at the expo and was glad we went. I then asked him why he didn’t want me to go initially and cited him asking me twice if i was “sure” I wanted to go. He tried to talk around it and say he was just making sure because our wedding is around the corner and didn’t want me to be overwhelmed with too many events but I called him out and just told him to level with me. I asked him if it was because Maya was going to be there. He said it was and he was anxious about a run-in this close to our wedding. I asked him how he knew she would be there and he pulled up a Dm from our friend who sent him a screenshot of her post of the expo flyer and their comment saying “guess whos going too lol”. I told him in the future to never try to disinvite me from an event like that again, regardless of who is going. That his response to her approaching him was perfect and that in the future that is what I would expect from him. He apologized to me and said it was stupid and that he was wrong. I told him that I am going to be his future wife and that I am the one who he should count on being at an event. He agreed.
So that’s pretty much it, I know it’s a bit anti-climatic but I wanted to provide an update to that situation. Sometimes it’s best to see how things play out before revealing how much you actually know. I’m glad I went to the event and let it all happen how it did, because I tihnk if i had gone into it confronting him before the event I would’ve never really known how he would’ve reacted without any warning.
TLDR: Fiancee and I went to the art expo where his ex-fling was and she waited until I went to the bathroom to approach him to say hi. Fiancee did not respond, nodded to her, then walked away with our other friends. I talked to him after the event and told him next time to not try to avoid the situation by disinviting me and to just react exaclty how he did. He apologized to me and we reached a common ground.