How would you feel about using an introspective rubric to assess both your own and your partner’s contributions to the relationship when it’s at a crossroad and traditional efforts seem ineffective?

5 comments

1. That would strongly depend on what that rubric was based on and contained and whether I considered it worthwhile, fair, accurate, or effective. If it was being done under the guidance of a trusted and qualified couples counselor, it would feel less likely to be biased or manipulative/coercive tactic.

2. Pass. This is doomed to create hard feelings.

   Marriage and score keeping are not compatible.

3. Is this for your homework?

4. I’d be down if our couples therapist assigned it as homework. I love therapy homework.

5. Its sorta like “taking a break”. Its a good tool to use while you plan your exit. Yes, you can mathematically prove that your partner is a selfish asshole. Doing so will end the relationship,

   Its an exit strategy.