I always read/hear guys complaining about being rejected by a woman because they are too nice but I don’t fully blame the women, there are good reasons and I’m not saying you have to be an asshole to succeed!
Being too nice may come off as fake, they may assume you are being too nice just to sleep with them or to make them fall in love with you and then your jerk side comes once you both start dating seriously. I actually got that feedback from a girl I wanted to date many years ago.
Being too nice can be the opposite of being assertive, you are just trying to please them and not being yourself or respecting what you want. If they know you are not respecting your needs and values to please them, it’s hard for them to like you…
Being too nice also make you look desperate for a relationship, they assume you are not getting any attention from other women and don’t have much going on in your life.
Focus on making things more interesting, dynamic, and fun in dating. Challenge them into some friendly debates and don’t agree on something you don’t truly believe in just to please them… this shit wont even get you respect from your male friends when they know you are a suck up.
You can still treat women with respect and be yourself, but perhaps don’t do too much and expect something in return.