Hi guys, hope everyones doing amazing.
I (23m) have been into this girl (22f) in my family friend circle for a couple years now but never really acted on it until about a year ago. We would hang around the same people, go on vacation as a massive group every year (her and her family included), and I’m good friends with her family (who are also friends with mine). Over the past year we got very close. We click really well and all of her friends love me as well.
But there’s a problem. She’s been with someone for a few years before who really Fuc\*ed her up. Completely tried to ruin this amazing and big hearted girl with every opportunity he got. They’ve been on-off and on super shaky ground of seeing each other usually when either of them has some kind of situation going on to be each others easy comfort. That relationship went into a “final straw” when he hit her.
They were still in that stage while I was hanging out with her. At the time, I thought they were finished for a while and didn’t really know of the meetups they were still having on occasion. Long story short, we started talking after their final straw a few months ago and she took our friendship to the next level. It was only during another vacation where everyone found out that were talking and I found out something that changed the game completely. Her ex hit her up to wish her a happy new years from a fake number (She has him blocked on everything and even has a restraining order) and she went off the rails. At that moment I knew that this is gonna come back to haunt me.
After starting to catch feelings and finding out that she’s not over her ex (although she says she is). Our talking stage transitioned into a break-off after I talked to her about it and decided she’s in no position to continue with being more than friends.
This really hurt me, Obviosly. I like this girl, a lot, but I know I need to keep her at a distance to protect myself. I’m very understanding that she tried to make what we had work, and was honest with me when she couldn’t.
She’s gonna remain in my life though everyone around me.
I don’t know what to do, reddit.
Run and avoid?
Or stay, and how far?