I (F29) have been in a long-term relationship with my (M29) for almost 9 years. We don’t live together yet but we plan to do so. I’m getting fed up with his family especially his mother trying to control him. She enables him too much and he is never wrong.We come from different cultures and backgrounds. I tell him she is too overbearing. We go out and he dont answer her she starts calling him non stop or she calls me.His dad is always away for work like the whole month and I feel she thinks her son is her replacement. I have told him many times that it bothers me that she cleans his room,does laundry,etc. To me she thinks she is the wife. She dont even do that to the younger brother or husband. I told my boyfriend he needs to put boundries because I dont feel confortable with her behavior. He says no because its against their culture to tell parents a simple no. The parents are moving soon to a different state, and insists us to come along. My partner said no, and she says,”no your coming. your my son i cant live without having you so far.” Like that pissed me off because now we cant live happily without that lady wanting my boyfriend do what she says so.
Any advice on how can I go about this situation without causing any more conflict in my relationship?
TL;DR: This is about me and my boyfriend wanting to start our own life and his mother wants us to move with her to a different state.