For context: I have quite a hard time to finish. It was always like that. 20 right buttons need to be pushed, an hour time when the stars align I can maybe come. I enjoy being intimate without it.
Some years into the relationship and I did not brought it up often (as I know it needs time and this is on my end, i was clear about my needs). Now I'm getting frustrated. He's not really putting in the effort and I crave an Orgasm from time to time. I suggested to buy a satisfyer (In most of the cases it works for me). He refuses, is mad about it and "does not want to talk about it". I dont get it. It's like talking to a brick wall.
Should I let go on this one? I really do not see a reason not to use it together, but I don't know how to get him to try.
TL;DR! – i suggested to use toys, because I have steuggles to come. My bf refuses. He does not want to talk about it.