So I (30F) have been seeing this guy (27M) for a month or two now. I’ve noticed that he has lost his boner during sex a few times. He told me once or twice that he just needed a break. Otherwise he’ll get hard again if I go back down on him or jack him off or if he jacks himself off.
I also notice that he’s usually soft when we’re foreplaying until I give him head. Foreplay usually starts with him going down on me and fingering me and I thought that would like turn him on enough to already start getting a little hard but it doesn’t. Also we’ve typically had a glass or two of wine when these situations happen but aren’t anything more than tipsy.
I understand that every man is different but I’ve never been with a guy that wasn’t just immediately rock hard lmao and I’m not saying that to hype myself up I’m just saying that because it’s what I was used to. I also don’t think that he cums every time we have sex.
I know that maybe it’s all totally normal because I also struggle with getting wet and orgasming sometimes so I understand if it’s just normal I’m not trying to shame him at all. But it partly makes me wonder if I’m doing something wrong or if there’s more I could be doing to turn him on. I know he’s very attracted to me and we’ve talked a lot about how amazing our sexual connection is. And I’m really hygienic down there so I don’t think it’s that either. I wanna ask him about it I just don’t wanna offend him or make him uncomfortable especially if I’m the reason lol.
Any thoughts/ideas/suggestions?? Would love to hear from men