Basically 15 years ago my mother (70 F) had an affair with a married man. It was the husband of a colleague that we all knew. She was married to my dad (M 72) for 35 years at the time. My dad is one of the kindest and loveliest men you could ever hope to meet. I was 17 at the time and only found out as I overheard the wife of the man telling my dad. My dad wanted to give my mum another chance but she wanted a divorce. She felt bored in their marriage. Neither of my parents knows that I know why they divorced and my dad has never badmouthed my mother and told us why. He’s also very amicable and nice to my mum.
Fast forward 15 years. My dad is happily remarried but I know he ultimately didn’t want a divorce and is still hurt by the act- he has said before ‘one day I’ll tell you what happened, it was a low point in my life’
Anyway, my mother and I have a good relationship after years of me quietly not trusting her. Today she came to me and said she’s very nervous and she wants to tell me she’s seeing someone (she’s never had a boyfriend in all this time) and that I know him. It turns out it is THE SAME GUY from 15 years ago. His wife died two months ago. I said oh that’s nice, how did you get in touch with him. She alleges that she messaged him to say sorry about his wife and they got together from then. I wouldn’t be surprised if they’ve been in contact all this time.
I really thought this was all behind me- my mother just seems super shady. I also feel terrible for my dad once he finds out that this guy is back!
NO idea what to do- my sister has no idea. I just feel sooo weird by it all. I know they’re older now but it seems wrong