TL;DR; : My gf uses sex as a means to encourage good behavior. Or am I overthinking this?
So me (m41) and my gf (f40) have been together for a year now. Sex has always been an issue. We have sex maybe once a week/every 10 days. She knows I want sex every other day/3 times a week, but she usually ends up getting a migraine when we go to bed and she notices I hint at having sex.
Yesterday, she said we would maybe have sex if I was a «good boy». Of course I’m always a good boy. But again, yesterday nothing happened. I was even on my best behavior the entire day.
I think that rhetoric is kind of strange. It’s like she wants to reward me with sex as if I’m her dog or something. What also bothers me is that she would give me sex for acting a certain way, not because she wants me.
What I want to do is to wait for her to ask me to get her phone or something, then carry her phone to her in my mouth, while crawling like a dog. Then drop the phone in her lap, pant and ask her if I was a good boy? And if we could have sex now?
I know it’s stupid but that comment triggered something in me. Is this what she thinks sex is? A negotiating device to encourage good behavior?
Or am I overthinking this?
Edit: grammar and typos