Isn’t extreme confidence a bit of a slippery slope into just doing what he wants without asking her beforehand and without paying proper attention to her body feedback because he’s so sure of his ability to pleasure a woman since they’ve done it 50 times before (even though half of them were probably faking pleasure) ?
I’ve literally heard guys brag about skipping foreplay and fucking a girl in doggy then kicking her out… yeah high five chad hogan you’ve given more women faked orgasms than anyone else in the frat you fuckhead.
The last woman I was with was shy / submissive and I didn’t want to confidently go in finger bashing her and eating her out because for all I know she doesn’t even enjoy it but doesn’t want to tell me to stop and I’m not always the best at reading non verbal cues.
So how should a guy show confidence in the bedroom?
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Introduce clear confident communication I think, talk to her and show her you know how to pleasure a vagina but want to specifically pleasure her in the way she likes, lead but recognise all good leaders rely on the experts in their team for guidance đđ
Iâm gonna be honest, your 2nd paragraph gives me the impression that youâve got a big olâ chip on your shoulder about this. Are careless, selfish dudes a problem? Definitely! But that sudden swerve into âChadâ hate is some serious red flag shit. Donât join the incel ranks. Confidence does not equal telepathy. You said yourself that you can have trouble with non-verbal cues, so why not try to find a partner who can accept that and work with it? (In other words, talk to the shy girl about this stuff before the fucking begins, and make sure your concerns/needs are understood, or if theyâre not, realize that you probably arenât a good fit for each other.) And in the meantime, you could try to improve those skills with someone who doesnât mind taking those baby-steps with you.