How did you stop over analyzing certain aspects of your life and just relax?

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1. I don’t know. I’ve always been good at this. To give you an idea, the night before my open-heart surgery, I slept like a baby and didn’t even think about it. On the other hand, my sister was a nervous wreck, lol. I just know that worrying doesn’t solve or change anything.

   Sometimes a good distraction can help, maybe a movie or hobby? Something to keep busy.

2. Meditation.

3. Therapy helped. It gave me the platform to talk out my thoughts instead of letting them ruminate. By talking out my issues with my therapist, I also realized why I was fixating. Sometimes it was about the issue at hand, sometimes it was about something else, and sometimes it was just a coping mechanism I used growing up in a dysfunctional household that I no longer needed to apply because my life was no longer dysfunctional.

4. What does “relax” feel like??.

5. Still trying to figure this one out too😬 But recently I’ve been trying to live in the moment because life is too short to worry about anything else

6. A therapist skilled in r/internalfamilysystems has been very helpful with this. Basically I talk to and listen to my parts and help them to calm down and stop obsessing over whatever it is is bothering them. It sounds like it wouldn’t work but it does.

7. I’ll say I’ve taken the first step in recognizing that overanalyzing situations stems from defining our worth by something and that I need to work on letting go of a belief that something defines me.

   Now, this applies more to over analyzing past situations than to future outcomes for me

8. I realized I was giving a shit about people I have never met and likely never will. That’s what made me stop giving a f*** about where they were getting married, what jobs they had, and what their lives overall were like. If I was never going to lay eyes on them I quite frankly shouldn’t waste my energy thinking of them.

   They were usually friends’ cousins or friends of friends’ siblings. It took a while to fight the urge to look them up online, but once I did I honestly don’t even think of them. My life is so much better and less dreadful now that I have stopped comparing my life to what people decide to show of themselves to look like a “perfect” person. I’m less ashamed of how I choose to live my life.

   I may not have some things people have, but quite frankly I realized I didn’t want what they have anyways. Once I started to only care about myself for a brief moment was I able to refocus my energy on things that excited me, rather than on things that made me feel such negative emotions.

9. 1) There are things I cannot control, so being anxious about those things isn’t helpful. They just are that way
   2) there are things I can control, so being anxious about those things isn’t helpful. I go out and take action

10. I know some people don’t find it easy to just relax but I tend to think it cannot last forever, whatever the reason that’s stressing me out, also I ask myself if I can/want to do something about it, if the answer is no, I just think fuck it….

11. I stopped caring about so many things so nah I hardly get bothered

12. by watching rowena tsai’s youtube videos. still learning a lot from her.

13. Ocean breathing and grounding. Name 5 things you see, 4 things you touch, 3 things you hear, 2 things you smell, and 1 thing you taste.

14. Cooking. Checking out new recipes from YouTube and trying them.

15. Learned to take a step back and analyze my emotions, do emotional check ins and learn to be alone with my anxiety.

16. Your power is your perspective. If you can change something, change it. If not, don’t waste energy worrying because no amount of worry can control the outcome. Change how you look at it.

17. Meditation, but it took a while for me to get the hang of why it was helpful. Years ago during a very stressful time of my life, a friend recommended “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chodron, and it was a good starting point.

18. I wish I knew