I’m interested in seeing responses from both sides of these scenarios, and only those who were successful in reestablishing trust and achieved a renewed healthy relationship through forgiveness. Just looking for some detailed responses if anyone is willing to share.

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  1. My wife lied to me about her sexual past. The truth came out years later. She regained my trust when I learned her lies were fueled by difficult childhood issues and fear of being rejected. She has otherwise been faithful wife in every way.

  2. They couldn’t. I think the best advice I ever heard was give it a year. If it’s still eating at you, it will never work.

  4. Intense communication and small steps, strong boundaries, time and patience. Consistency.

  5. Consistency, transparency and time. There is no one act that will bring trust back. It’s not like you can say do 15 loads of laundry and tame a horse and I’ll trust you again. The key is to not put either one in a position to question you/them and the way to do that is transparency, consistent actions and open communication and check ins and a LOT of time.

  6. If your spouse can humbly take and respond to your confrontation, that’s step one. If your spouse can own up to his/her wrongdoing(s) without downplaying it, that’s step two. If your spouse can acknowledge and admit the pain inflicted on you, that’s step three. If your spouse can truly apologize and bare his/her heart and emotions to you, that’s step four. From there, it’s a lot of communication, time, space, accountability, and rebuilding of trust. The process should NEVER feel rushed. Your spouse should understand that healing isn’t linear and does not have a timeline. It is possible and it is worth it if you know who this person truly is and who they are not. Sometimes people mess up and sometimes people are mess ups. You have to decide which one your spouse is, and chances are you know deep down which it is.

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