hi everyone! i’m a 23F in need of some guidance please!
A bit about my dating history: Unfortunately, i’ve had the displeasure of dealing with men that get to know me, show me they’re “interested” in me, even go as far as to be romantic-ish, then rush everything to get to sex. I love sex as much as the next girl but always being overly sexualized by men has ruined my dating experiences. Thus, I’ve adapted into being hypersexual with every man I encounter since that’s all they’ve seen me for :///
Present day, I met this amazing man (29M) and as selfish as it sounds, I’m already selfish with him. I hate being controlling but I don’t want him with anyone else. We’ve been on 3 dates thus far, 3rd one being the most flirtatious out of all of them. Super touchy, romantic, being so sweet to one another. We ended the date with a serious, vulnerable, and truthful conversation about what we were doing. He told me he likes to date other people, which I found kind of odd and took me by surprise. We spent the WHOLE day being sweet, romantic, and very bf-gf energy. Thus, I had a hard time believing he could be dating other women and doing the EXACT same thing with them too. I briefly expressed how I’m not seeing anyone else and that’s personally not my style. Furthermore, I expressed how I didn’t like the idea of him dating around but also said I don’t wish to control him either. He was respectful of my feelings and told me whatever boundaries are set, we would follow whatever ones we set.
My essential questions are:
1) Does he wanna keep me around just for the bf-gf treatment but with no title?
2) Am I wasting my time?
3) Does he just wanna get into my pants?
4) How do you navigate dating around? Do you have favorites? A roster?
5) How many dates does it take for to know you wanna be with someone exclusively?
Help!