Bf (23) of 9 months suggested to me (22f) that hes really into the idea of me and another girl both sucking his dick, her watching us fuck, and her fingering me, but that he wouldn’t fuck her – and only would fuck me.
I feel a bit hurt and don’t know how to respond because I don’t agree that you can have a threesome and be in love, however this would be without him actually fucking the girl.
Also I think I would get too jealous seeing another with him in any way sexually.
He knows I’m bi but I feel that I wouldn’t be completely comfortable getting another girl involved.
Any advice would be a massive help x
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Are you sure your bf didn’t make a post about this a couple weeks ago
Do not do it, don’t fuck up a good thing
If it were me, I would be clear to him exactly how you feel. That I am not comfortable with it. That should be the end of it. If not , maybe ask him why he isn’t able to respect my feelings about the subject and hope that we can have deeper understanding of where we are each at on that subject and maybe more. Idk. Sometimes conversations can lead to better bonding if both people are willing to be open, honest and vulnerable.
Best of luck
You could simply tell him no.
If you’re not in to it, then give him that answer.
“No, I’m sorry I’m not comfortable with that.”
Don’t sit there and try to justify “well at least he wouldn’t fuck her” as if that’ll make you feel better about it. Of course it won’t.
Not to mention part of his fantasy is about another girl doing stuff to *you.*
Anyways, the point is that you clearly don’t want to do it and that’s ok, normal, and totally acceptable. You can tell him no.
Don’t try to convince yourself you’ll enjoy it. You’re either enthusiastic about the idea of you’re not. There’s no gray area there.
He’s allowed to make this request. You’re allowed to not be comfortable with it. You both should be able to be open about sex with each other
I’m not down for threesomes. If you are good for you but no one besides me is to touch my man. Male or female idgaf. And I would hope he would feel the same way with me
I appreciate you don’t want to jeopardize your relationship but you need to understand what is the relationship you want to have: a relationship where partners communicate desire and needs and respect each other’s point of view or a relationship that morphs out of fear for messing up ?
When it comes to threesomes, it’s alway safer to be the third and not apart of the couple.
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I never had a threesome and have no desire to. But you say that you can’t have a threesome and be in love? That is harsh… Plenty of people love each other and have threesomes. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as all involved people are consenting.
If you would get too jealous seeing another woman with him, and if you don’t feel comfortable with a threesom, don’t do it. Tell him that you are not open to this.
Sadly, many men think that female bisexuality actually means ‘straight but open to threesomes’. Which is bullshit. Not all bi women are open to threesomes. My girlfriend is bi and has no desire to have a threesome, and I’m one of the very few straight guys who is not open to a threesome.
When guys hear that the girl is bi. Then that fantasy plays out in their head. Just let him know that you are not comfortable and that you are only into him. He probably thinks that what you want.