Is it true most women hardly get off during sex?

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1. The survey says most women don’t achieve orgasms through PIV sex alone.

   Which *doesn’t* mean women don’t have orgasms during sex. Or that women don’t enjoy sex without having orgasms.

   I mean, I don’t have orgasms if I’m just pounded. But I do have orgasms with good foreplay and skin&clit contact. I get off really easy if I’m riding the guy. And there are times when I absolutely enjoy sex even if I don’t have an orgasm, casual doggystyle is just wild that way.

2. I can’t really give you a conclusion about all men and I haven’t been with that many men but I would say it’s not super easy to find a man that is as much of a giver as they like to receive. They have no trouble asking for a hand or blowjob every single time, but getting the same thing in return is not the norm. Even having any forplay at all seems to be already asking too much. It’s kind of disappointing to be honest. I’m sure there are men who do enjoy pleasing their partners as well so I don’t want to group them all together, but apparently it’s not super easy to find them.

3. I have not had a problem with being able to have a woman “get off” or orgasm. But it’s not always just PIV sex that works. It’s the whole package starting with foreplay. I have heard of women that cannot orgasm during sex. But its primarily the partner they are with that needs to step up their game.

4. I have not had a problem with being able to have a woman “get off” or orgasm. But it’s not always just PIV sex that works. It’s the whole package starting with foreplay. I have heard of women that cannot orgasm during sex. But its primarily the partner they are with that needs to step up their game.

5. *Some* men are selfish. You find someone that’s compatible. Guaranteed, there are men that looooooove to make women orgasm.

6. I hear that there are men such as you described. But it is not all guys. I make my lady’s pleasure my priority and love giving her oral until she has an orgasm or multiple orgasms. And, of course, making out and lots of foreplay. I think the moral of the story is to connect with a guy who will care for you and make you sexual pleasure and you otherwise his priority.

7. She’s been meeting the wrong men , sure some can be like that but others aren’t

8. Yes some men are selfish and only want themselves to get off. That being said it isn’t all men. There are men who love to please their women. It is true most women can’t reach orgasm from penetrative sex but through clitoral stimulation. There are women who do have orgasms thru PIV sex it just all depends. Sex can be totally worth it.

9. I thinking saying “most women” don’t get off or “most mrn” are selfish is overstating.

   Both if these are true for.some peoe but no don’t expect this as your norm.

   I enjoy sex. I know what makes me orgasm so I can communicate it to my partner.

   Learn your body and what feels good and learn to be vocal about your needs and don’t settle for a partner that doesn’t listen and makes an effort. And likewise be an attentive and giving partner.

10. I have been with 8 women in my life and only one couldn’t get off with me. And we tried everything including toys 🤷‍♂️

11. It might be normal in that your situation is common, but that’s not ho it is supposed to be. Don’t settle for meh sex.

12. There no better feeling then when my wife is satisfied.

13. I’m 38, I have had a lot of sex with plenty of men.

    Unfortunately I found that majority are really really bad at sex.

    Some were willing to learn but I’ll be honest, Im getting too long in the tooth to teach basic techniques any more.

    I learned from books and how to guides and non porn videos. I don’t mind showing someone how I like it but the extreme lack of even basic understanding would shock you.

    Also, the assuming once they come it’s just done.

    Never again.

    My one piece of advice is never settle for mediocrity.

    If the sex is bad but he actually actively participates in learning thats fine, you can take that chance but if the sex is a chore at the start run.

    If you can’t have a sexual conversation without them getting hurt or defensive run (also make sure this is not one sided)

    Sex is important and having bad sex causes a lot of women to get aversions especially after children.

    Look after your sex life now. Explore, engage and learn your own body and do not settle for anyone who does not wish to devour you.

    Slainte

14. I’m a guy that has to get a woman off because I will feel like absolute shit if I didn’t. That’s one thing I enjoys is making women have orgasms. Because I know from my past relationships they talk about how there man would only get them off once in a while when he gets his nut off he’s done. Fuck that!!!! Women should be treated like queens for everything they endure. If your partner gets off so should you. But some men don’t know what they are actually doing line finding there g spot or know even how to eat a woman out.

15. So, your friends have poor taste in men. I’d call those boys.

    If I were you I’d expect him to try, and to be capable of taking some direction.

    Talk to the man. Know that he’s intent on your pleasure or don’t let him in.

    I’d also say that orgasms also have to do with the people receiving them. Sometimes it takes women years to figure out. So, get working on it if you haven’t.

    I’m on here a lot and what I’ve found is that many women call men selfish, and many men call women lazy. It’s not disproportionate, it’s just that it’s a two way street. People are individuals. If you want to have sex, I recommend good open communication before you ever get there and during.

16. Okay, decent amount of sex partners. 40 years of having sex.

    One in five gives orgasms. One in 10 is incredible in bed.

    It’s a lot of risk for little reward. But, when you find a good one, it all seems worth it

17. don’t believe generalizations

18. I don’t know what the chances are, but if you want, you can take things slower and take some time to get to know someone. If a man only wants sex and your not giving it right away, they may show their true colors sooner. If a man is selfless and a good listener in a relationship it’s more likely that they are in bed.

    Some may be selfless, but don’t know what they’re doing, so that’s where it helps if they listen. Don’t be afraid to show them what you like. Clit stimulation is needed for most women to orgasm, so make sure it is during intercourse, a man can even rub his pubic bone against it.

19. I mean… I finish almost every time with my husband. PIV. You just need to find someone who actually cares and will communicate. And you need to be willing to slow down when he needs to. If I don’t finish, sometimes I’m okay with it because it felt amazing. Sometimes I want him to finish me somehow… And I let him know 🤷🏼‍♀️.

20. In my experience, casual sex/hookups are absolute garbage and really not worth it as a woman.

    There is a pretty significant consensus among my group of friends that the best part of “hookups” or casual sex is the anticipation, sexual tension, and fantasizing about sex before it happens. Sex is almost always a let down and only the man orgasms. Sometimes this is because the man only wants to cum and doesn’t care about your pleasure, but other times they’re just too excited and can’t delay orgasm. Plus, some don’t have the stamina/ability to go a second time and focus more on getting you off. They may also lack experience and have only had sexual partners who weren’t vocal about their own needs- so it can also be due to ignorance.

    This is the case with my current partner. Before me, he had only had casual sex and hookups. So he didn’t have the experience of being with a woman who showed him how to please a woman. He’s very open to learning and his skills have dramatically improved. But I find dudes who mostly hookup- they just don’t know how to make a woman orgasm, they don’t care, or they’ve had partners who fake orgasms and give them the false impression that basic PIV is sufficient for most women to reach orgasm. So imo, your friends are correct.

    I have only ever had orgasms during sex with men I was in a relationship with. And it’s because they were committed to my pleasure as well. But I had to teach them what I liked, we had to try many different positions and contexts to determine what worked best (because every man’s body/penis feels different, and for me, the ideal position for orgasm has varied with every partner I’ve had), what sexual dynamic worked best for us etc. So it took time, it took experimenting, and just becoming more comfortable and communicative.

    I’m now at an age where I’d never hookup casually with someone, because the best part is usually just the excitement and anticipation. I find it’s really hard to great sex if you’re just casually hooking up with someone and don’t talk about your needs, or if they don’t care about your needs. And of course there will be exceptions, but in my experience hookups absolutely suck for women.