Im 24M with little to no experience with women. Been honest with myself lately, I’m a nice guy and I’m scared of conflict. However, my appearance and the way I look like I carry myself says the complete opposite. I look/dress like Carlton from fresh prince of bel air but I hardly smile. I just can’t say no to people and I let them walk over me. I’ve had women “test” me and I failed them all one by one bc of this sickness. Whenever my gut tells me to say something I start having a literal panic attack. Heart rate sky rockets, feel nauseous, dry mouth, shaking and my hands get ice cold so I just retreat and let them exploit me. I want to change.
TLDR: 24M nice guy want to change having panic attacks when faced with conflict
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Read “No More Mr Nice Guy”, may be useful.
Given the degree of reaction you have, you really should be working with a therapist on this. You also might benefit from anti-anxiety medication, which would also need to be evaluated by a medical professional.
Look up self improvement lessons in emotional intelligence, people pleasing or overthinking. You’re young but old enough to start working on who you want to be FOR YOU, not other people.