don’t know how to start a conversation

5 comments

1. Don’t be basic. Ask interesting specific questions!

2. I would suggest approaching girls and saying the first thing that comes to your mind, about the party, about the pub or whatever or if nothing comes to you then use “Hi, I saw u and u looked interesting, my name is xyz, are u a student?”

   Then the girl replays something and whatever she says multiple things “pop” up in your head to talk about – the problem is that people judge the things that pop up and start having doubts about if it’s “cool enough” thing to say and then just freeze.

   There is a good chapter on how to user improvisation technique to just talk forever [in this book](https://www.reddit.com/user/SoundFoxstripe/comments/oootgp/how_to_date_any_girl_ebook_free_for_limited_time/). It has helped me a lot with just getting out of my own way of over-analyzing stuff so that I could free up some mental RAM for flirting with girls etc.

   Also, some people will be dry and your energies don’t match – that’s ok.. just excuse yourself and go talk with someone else.

3. Point to things happening around you and ask them what they think about it. They’ll probably mention other things that you can spin questions off of. Try to ask open ended questions that you can’t just answer with a yes or no. For instance, ‘What do you think about your classes this year?’. Don’t forget to first introduce yourself using your name and ask for their name.

4. Ask something positive.
   What has been the highlight of your day?
   Has anything good happened to you today?
   Or straight-up compliment
   I like your hat/dress/t-shirt/earrings/style in general
   Ask them small question
   Do you like sushi or tacos better ?
   I think red hat gonna win dont you think ?

5. There’s no right way to start a conversation. Just open the mouth and produce words. Your mind is going to judge you because that’s how it was trained, ignore it. You’re doing fine. You may feel emotions, just feel them, they won’t actually hurt you.