hi all! i’m pretty friendly but haven’t got many close friends and i guess i can only name one girl as my best friend
i was super gloomy in middle school bc of stuff happening at home and gloomy junior year again bc of stuff at home (demon mother) and my one (1) friend is super hilarious, outgoing, very cool, loved by all, and all the “friends” i’ve made had stemmed from me being her tail and just happening to be there while she is making these friendships. not great i know. — she has a plethora of close lovely friends while i only have her
i’m moving across the country for uni ALONE (wow scary, really) and i’ve formulated a basic plan on how i’m going to make friends + get to know more people aside from me (introvert) getting adopted by an extrovert (what happened in highschool)
i will try my best to talk to people, join clubs, and have questions in my back pocket rehearsed and ready, plus a couple of unique interesting stories to tell. i plan on leaving my dorm room open if my roommate is okay with it for the first week or so to try and get to know more people, and this is really all i can think of so far
i haven’t got many interests as i sit around all day vibrating with anxiety for no reason (I KNOW, i know) so i haven’t got much to talk about and i’m a pretty boring person so this summer i’ve tried to pick up art (drawing) and reading!
i can read social cues thank you very much, i’m a master listener and questioner too, so there’s no doubts there, but my dream is really to be someone who other people look at and think “wow she’s so cool and interesting, i want to be friends with her that would be so much fun” 🥹 as right now i’m aware that i am like the most boring person on the planet
any additional tips and suggestions would be much appreciated!
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As someone who was in the same boat as you and started making loads of friends in college, first off you already have a great start with leaving yourself open to new people and wanting to listen. The start of college is when people are the most open to getting to know you so make the most of it. Share about yourself too, I know some people are afraid of oversharing but that’s subjective to what you’re willing to share. If you’re a private person there’s nothing wrong with that, but it also signals to people that making genuine friends with you would be hard. Share stories of your personal life, and kind of feel what is it that makes certain stories more interesting to hear.
Don’t be afraid to kind of be awkward sometimes because I certainly do it as well when I’m sober. I admit I’m pretty boring when I’m sober so maybe loosen up with some weak drinks if you’re a fun kind of drunk.
This is less of a skill, but looks matter so much for first impressions. You don’t have to majorly glow up to the point where you don’t recognize yourself, but wear clothes that you look good in, and then you can wear comfortable clothes next semester when everyone already knows you. Find fashion advice videos and filter out what kind of clothes you like, what fits your body type and how to accessorize.