Best advice to start socialize more as a teen

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1. Do it. That’s it. No amount of it being spelled out for you will make you actually do it you just have to do it. You’ll fail, there will be extremely awkward moments buts all growth. I’ve come a long way and I have a long way to go to get where I want to be. You just have to start doing it and keep moving forwards. You can fail, failure is necessary and inevitable. just don’t walk backwards more than you walk forwards.

2. Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests, goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what people say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.