I am with my bf for a while now and we try to have open communication around everything and even more around sex.
He has a higher sex drive than me and we are still learning our way around our differences there. We had a talk about sex a few days ago and my bf mentioned how much he loves when I give him head and how he would really like if we could do it more often.
I told him I would try to since I don’t mind doing it (sometimes I even like it actually). Currently he might be getting head about twice a month and I’ll try to up my game to at least once a week. He felt bad asking for that specially since I don’t really like oral on me but I was happy to hear how much he loved me doing it and I really want to try to give them more often.
It’s not that much work, he cum pretty quick from bj and it would be a nice addition to our sex life since I don’t feel for PIV more than 2-4 times a week. In the days we don’t have sex I think it’ll be easy to get on my knees a few minutes and I kind of see that as a thank you for how much he helps me everyday. My life really got easier with him in it and I sometime feel like im not bringing him half the help he brings me.
Anyway that post is turning in a lot of thought written up but the reason I post is that I was wondering how often women in couple are blowing there partner? Do you like doing it or do you do it more for him?
Small detail that might be good to mention is that he never came in my mouth, something about it makes me uneasy and he respect that and warn me before so that I can move it out of my mouth and finish him with my hand. I would like to try that eventually but for now im still not ready.
If you have any advice on how to start im all ears!
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I go down on my husband at least once a week, more often usually. I don’t really love him cumming in my mouth (not the end of the world, we do it sometimes, but not my preference), so I finish him onto my cheeks and lips—and I really like that. I don’t “get on my knees”—ouch! Instead I go down on him in bed, sometimes I’m between his legs, sometimes I’m lying next to him.
I’m interested to see what women have to say about this. My wife blows me maybe maybe 50% of the time we have sex but usually just as foreplay. Every once in a while we’ll have an oral-only encounter and finish each other. I’d love to do that more and/or ask for blowjobs when she’s not in the mood for PIV sex but I feel like an inconvenience to her when I do.
I finish my bf with oral probably 3x a week or so, the other days are PIV completion. I don’t like cum in my mouth personally so we just skip the mouth and I put him in my throat for that part. Easy peasy, he loves it, and I find it super fucking hot.
Bj only to completion maybe once or twice a month.
But we most often end penetrative sex eith a bj to finish about 90% of the time.
My wife of 7 years will give me a blowjob whenever I want it
I love giving my husband blowjobs. I give him about 4 to 6 a week. I love sucking his hard cock and getting a mouthful of his warm cum! Mmmm, it is the best!
Very rarely will I give him a blowjob to completion. I can’t handle the taste, so I’ll just go down on him for a min or two as foreplay, a couple times a week. I sometimes enjoy giving, but he never goes down on me so I don’t enjoy it as much as I would otherwise…so primarily just for him.
Been with my bf for almost 10 months maybe it’s still just a phase or maybe we both have a high sex drive but i give him at least one blowjob everyday
I’m a man but I’ll say I’ve never had a blowjob to completion. Maybe my wife just isn’t that good at it (and I don’t get them that often as it is) but I’ve never gotten that close with one.
I like giving my husband blowjobs, but only as foreplay. I have never just given a blowjob to completion without sex coming before or after. I otherwise would be sexually frustrated lol
I want to blow my partner, but he always wants all of me! The only time we finished a bj was when I begged him to. He loves to go down on me, but then doesn’t want it returned. It took me a while to be ok with this arrangement!
Maybe 1-2 times a year. My husband doesn’t usually cum from blowjobs, and he prefers to cum from intercourse, so it’s almost always foreplay for us. I do give him oral for a few minutes probably 75% of our sexy times, so like 2-3/week.
Edit: we are in our 40s and have been married 20+.
I get sucked whenever I want, but I almost never cum from oral. Takes too long.
To completion, in average I’d say between once and twice a week.
It’s never because h s asked for it, it’s just because I really want to…
As foreplay or during sex prob 2-5 times per week, depending on on how often wee see each other
Together nearly 30 years
In the beginning she would blow me but never to completion
In all our time together maybe 4 times she has done this
In the last 10 years, pretty much nothing. Like nothing at all
Whenever he wants 🙂 usually 3-6 times a week.
We’ve been together for 13 years and I do it at least once a week. I actually enjoy it, so I would do it more, but it tends to just lead to sex.
I give my man a blowjob around 1-2 times a week if we can get time (difficult sometimes since we have kids) & I enjoy doing it, is nice taking control with my mouth till he can’t take it anymore & explodes in my mouth, although I understand why other women dislike cum in their mouths.
Doesn’t always lead to PIV sex, I just like doing it since he gets into it rather than sitting like a stone in silence like some of my past exs did.
I love going down on my guy. Turns me on a lot. My guy and I have sex almost daily. Oral is almost always a part of foreplay for each of those sessions. But rarely to completion because we both prefer to come other ways. (Last night was one of those rare times…he went down on my to completion while using a dildo on me vaginally…. so good)
BJs to completion happen 5-6 times a month I think. I tend to not prefer sex during the 1st two days of my period so I’ll usually go down on him then. Also oral for both of us may happen to completion during a quick morning session. But we will probably still have sex that night.
I give my bf a blowjob every time we have sex. (Every time we see eachother). Often times it is part of foreplay, and most of the time he pulls out and I finish him off with my mouth
I blow him 3-4 times a week – we both have a lot of fun doing it!
My husband and I have been married 8 years, together 11. I suck his dick every time we have sex (2-3 times a week) and give him a blow job to completion about as often. (2-3 times a week). I always let him cum in my mouth and swallow. It’s very important to him to have me swallow and it just seems natural to me. I have always swallowed with every partner I’ve had. I would feel bad rejecting someone’s orgasm like that. I’d be really upset if he pulled away before I came because he thought my orgasm was gross.
Im in the same situation, bf has a bigger sex drive and when we spend weekends together i give him at least 2 bjs a bay, sometimes more. Its been 4 years and it kinda became a morning/evening routine for us ,a bj for waking up and a bj for going to sleep, sometimes i do one or two durring the day if we feel like it too.
I go down on my boyfriend multiple times every time I see him ( at least once a day ) sometimes to completion usually as foreplay
I go down on him whenever he’s up for it , he has a lower sex drive than me though . Not usually to completion though , my jaw hurts after a while and he usually gets in the mood for PIV when I go down on him so we switch to that . I personally don’t like the taste of cum but will sometimes let him cum in my mouth anyway if he wants to and I don’t mind at that moment in time .
lots of girls that don’t like cum will let a guy come on their breasts or cheeks or even lips. if you are on the pill, how about letting him cum down there too? I think you are doing something great and it should pay dividends in your relationship.
to answer your question, i almost always give a BJ as foreplay before getting fucked, and in a relationship I think I do it a couple times a week to completion (I allow CIM and swallow)
I go down on my bf every time we do anything sexual. We see each other around 3-4 days out of the week and do something sexual each of the days. Maybe I’ll give him 2 or more bjs in one day. Since we have PIV sex, blowing him to completion happens less often (as he prefers cumming inside me and we get riled up enough to have sex) but I’d still say it happens at least 1-2x a week
I usually give my boyfriend a bj every 2 days, usually every day. I just love doing it, and so does he. I usually do it every morning since his sex drive in the morning is super high and mine is non existent in the morning. So with that he can be satisfied and I dont have to pretend anything 😌
I have sex with my bf almost everyday and I always do it as a foreplay. Is that too frequent?
I find it depends on your dynamic in the relationship but personally, when my bf and are not immensely busy I try to maybe at least 4 times a week? he doesn’t always finish form a blowjob but im pretty submissive and It turns me on giving him pleasure, so its not only for him but for me as well. Honestly though I always initiate, I wished he would tell me when he wants one, were still figuring that out..
Never done it to completion, but some men don’t cum from bjs which was my ex’s situation.
I like it and I do it whenever it’s given that opportunity. Sometimes he wants, sometimes we do other things. Counting, I would say more than once a week, but I don’t keep calculating 😅
I do it to completion every time and when I want to do them. He doesn’t have to even ask.
However, I give them because I want too, not because I owe him something or a way to “repay” him for what he does for me.
The first time you take his load in your mouth you should have sex until he ejaculates beforehand. That’s the biggest load he is going to have, so you don’t have to take a huge load of squirts and spurts in your mouth and probably will be easier for you to get accustomed to him blasting come in your mouth.
For the past year I have spoiled my man. 1 to 3 times a day. I let him watch porn too. I love sucking his balls too. But now when we have sex he goes soft for me. It breaks my heart. Did I spoil him with all that head and porn??? I am a freak in the bedroom. We have never had this problem. I feel so depressed now and I am horney all the time. He forgot about my needs. What should I do??? 😔
I’ve only done it once before, I would do it more but my partner doesn’t like giving oral, so the desire to give isn’t really there anymore.
To completion…maybe once a month. I suck his dick as part of foreplay just about daily. I really love PIV, so if we are short on time (which we usually are with our busy lives) I often have to choose if I’m going to finish him off with my mouth or stop so we can have PIV. He has never asked me to suck him. I just do it because I enjoy it and he does as well.
Bf of 2 years and I love giving him a BJ. I’d do it everyday if i could and learn to love getting head. If you relax enough and he knows what he’s doing ( even if he doesn’t , tell him what u like!) it can be great
I love blowing my husband. To completion though, about once a week I’d say.
To completion almost daily. But he can cum multiple times, easily 4-5 times in one session. It often leads to PIV sex.