hey , i am 28 years old guy i have been introverted and in social distance for all my whole life i tries to start socializing and make friends and go out 2 years ago , i mostly failed i. relationships with girls and male friends they mostly laugh at me and walk away there is always agap and i feel literally like a 16 years old giy
is there any tricks like reading certain books or stuff or anything
to make up the missed social experience
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Ok first of all, judging by the way you describe your self you are very insecure. Before ANYTHING you need to learn to love yourself, take care of yourself and develop your confidence. Confidence and self love is key to maintaining friendships.
So the first step is to love yourself first. A tip is to learn that most people truly don’t care about you ina. Bad way, meaning no one is ever thinking “ew remember that guy at the grocery store he was SO gross.”
Remember you are worth EVERY second, and that people should be thankful to talk to you. Ik thats a shallow way to think BUT it can help develop your confidence.
Now if you want to know the next step to getting friends once you are confident. Is joining clubs, and social gatherings. Pubs, Game nights, Events, Book clubs, sport clubs, literally anything that can give you the opportunity to talk to other people.
For an example of the book club: “oh wow is that *insert book name here* i love that book. Its such a good book.”
Orher person: “really i havent read it yet”
You: “oh wow its definitely worth the read becasue-“
Thats how you start a conversation notice something someone is doing and talk about it, here’s another example. Or ask a question and turn it into a conversation
And ir they look like they don’t want to talk to you or are uncomfortable thats ok, take it as a sign that person idk looking for friends and drop the convo and find someone else to talk to. Learn that rejection is a natural process of developing friends trial and error