Men who were in arranged marriages/married for the culture, when did you become comfortable with your spouse? If not, did you get a divorce?

3 comments

1. After spending the wedding night with her , all inhibitions went out of the window.

2. It actually takes much less time than you do becoming comfortable with a regular friend. Because when you’re married, well, now you’re both stuck so the phase of “what can and can’t I tell this friend? Will they like me? Are they just pretending?” It’s all gone. Now you’re married so you kinda just have to get along and accept them.

   As for divorce, it’s much lower because you didn’t really have pick to enter, so why would you think you can pick to leave? People in arranged marriages who don’t get along, usually force themselves to make it work. It takes a lot to divorce (like not bearing a son in some stupid cultures). But otherwise, they deal with it.

3. This question reminds me how grateful I am that my forebearers had the good sense and deep courage to take the plunge and come to the USA. For all our problems, we at least have some control over the really perosnal, quite basic life long decisions that affect us the most. Freedom rocks.