My husband and I have been married for 4 years, together for 7 years. When we met, his family were not keen on me because they are religious and I am not up to their standards of a religious wife. My husband isn’t religious and has expressed to them several times that he would not be happy with a religious woman. However, his parents are unhappy and so have told my husband that when he visits, they don’t want me there. My husband drives about 3 hours out of state to visit his parents every month or so. He goes for a week sometimes and sometimes for around 4 days or the weekend. This has been going on for 4 years now. We have no children, however, I feel my husband does not prioritise me and our family. I think it’s excessive to be away from home for so long each month. Am I being unreasonable or should i talk to him about this?
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Yes this is something that needs discussing before you have children.
Does be spend holidays and special events with you?
Unreasonable? Yes. But, your husband only has 2 options at this point.
1. Stand up for you and cut ties with his family.
2. Do what his family wants, and continue the frequent visits without you.
Religious families are very controlling, usually through guilt and manipulation. They have a tight grip on your husband, and he probably isn’t ready to change that.
well if you never asked him you cant really say he doesnt prioritize you. how can he when you never spoke up for yourself
You’re right