If I scream the word “HARDER,” my partner seems to think I want him to go *faster*. Which isn’t at all what I meant for him to do, but š¤·āāļø (still works, I guess but not the point…) Upon speaking to other women, this isn’t a unique issue but seems to be a persistent problem among many sexually active couples. So out of curiosity, I want to hear what guys have to say about it, I guess.
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Were giving it all we got capt’n
To go harder requires a faster thrust, not necessarily in rapid succession, but extra speed is needed for each individual thrust.
they take it as “put more effort”.
it needs a pre-talk. honey, when I say harder, it’s harder, not faster. let’s do it hard and slow.
the hard and slow task will help them understand
It’s so true! Haha I just want a steady moderate pace with a hard, deep thrust haha Of course in the moment it’s pretty intense
Would āfirmerā or āmore pressureā be a better description than the old porn standard of āharderā I would take āfirmerā to have more presence. Donāt pull back at the end of the thrust but pause while applying pressure to the pubis with a slight gyration to work the labia and the length of the vagina. After that second while bottomed out, retract the stroke and thrust again. Or did I miss desired outcome
Yeah, if you want him to pump harder, heās going to have to go faster. I donāt know how else I would do it anyway.
If you want it harder but not faster it gonna be dangerous š
Break it down into a few key words, example slow hard.
For gamer bfs maybe you can use heavy weapon critical attack, just kidding
As Conor McGregor once said: āPrecision beats power, and timing beats speedā.
It’s just dysexlia. Say “FASTER” instead.
Because no one has invented(that I’m aware of) fast repeating temporarily activated naked safe booster rockets.
The less sarcastic way to say that is you can honestly only thrust so hard. At some point it’s just a wrestling match where I’m quite likely to snap or bend a piece of personal hardware I really don’t want to do that to. So the choices are try to shove you through the mattress and hold it long enough you can’t breathe, or get a running start and slam it home which requires….you guessed it…..faster.
I’ll explain a different way. What exactly do you mean by “Harder”? I understand the definition of the word.