I (18m) recently lost my virginity to (28m). I am straight but Im questioning it after that. I really didn’t want to lose my virginity to a guy and wish it was a girl and Im straight so i told the guy that but his explanation of how do you know if you never tried it made sense at the time so I reluctantly agreed to it. During it i didn’t like it mentally but my body responded to it and felt good, i even came during it. This has all got me confused and i feel like i really don’t know myself anymore.
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I guess you are almost gay.
U sound like u don’t want to be gay but u sound like u quite possibly are. Being gay isn’t something to be ashamed about. You can very well like
Both guys and girls. Honestly it’ll make your sex life so much more fun if u like both but since u had sex with a guy especially for ur first time I can confidently say that you’re attracted to men lol which is again completely FINE and u shouldn’t feel weird about it
I (f) could have sex with a woman right now and I’d probably respond physically to it too. Hell, I’d probably even enjoy it. The body can’t help responding to the things that are being done to it. Sex is sex to the body, no matter who’s doing it or what gender they are. The brain is another matter.
What’s the context and the situation and why were you in that situation if you weren’t questioning your sexuality beforehand?
I wouldn’t call you straight, you are a man who engaged in coitus with another man so that ship has sailed, but that being said it doesn’t make you a bad person, people should be judged by their character first and foremost not their orientation.
You can be straight ID’d and fuck men. I’m gay ID’d but have had sex with women. Having sex with a few women (and a ocean of men) didn’t change my sexuality, so it doesn’t have to change yours.
Go with what you feel. Be open to new experiences. Don’t worry about what to label yourself, just pay attention to who you’re drawn to. You’ll have more and better sex if you do.
Frankly, it sounds like you only agreed because you were intoxicated and felt pressured. Maybe some curiosity, but this was really sketchy. The body sometimes responds to sexual stimuli regardless of whether the mind wants it.
It’s normal to experiment. I lost my virginity at age 19 to a guy that was like yours. I did not do good with girls and thought I was homosexual. I enjoyed it every moment. He was very kind and took into account this was my first time. I asked him even to penetrate me, but it hurt too much and he backed off when he saw this.
I never had sex again with a man. I noticed I felt more at ease when doing it with a woman a few years later. Still I think of myself as being bisexual. I wonder if I wasn’t married if I would look up gay events to have gay sex again. A relationship with a man is something that’s non-existent in my mind atm.
I think this narrative helps me the best. I liked sex with a man and I like sex with women. It would ask too much pondering if I identify myself as straight.
But you do as you like.
You were talked into this when you had been using alcohol and drugs, feeling some level of pressure. If you are still feeling attracted to ladies and not interested in repeating what happened, you are not gay. There was a study years ago revealing a surprising number of straight men who had a “gay” experience in their life. It’s probably been updated.