1. Be nice
2. Yes this is a serious post
3. Please save the “just lose weight” comments.
Some men actually like fat girls & some fat girls are actually comfortable & confident in their bodies.
I (F) am a big woman! 5’2 & currently 280lbs. I’ve always been a big girl but this is the most I’ve ever weighed. Big thick thighs, short legs, wide hips, belly, huge heavy boobs that I’m sick of lol. My bf isn’t a skinny little guy either. 5’10, average body type with a little extra weight on him. I’d guess he’s around 230. I’ve realized he has a longer torso & shorter legs. Like when I’m on my knees giving him head I have to go down lower than I’m used to. He absolutely loves my body & my size. We have sex 3 to 4 times a day every time we see each other. Usually 2 or 3 days a week. So our sex life is very happy & healthy.
That being said I want to try more positions. Right now we mostly do doggy (my favorite) & missionary (his favorite). Sometimes with one or both of us standing or on the bed. Sex is usually always in the bed. The couch never works. Stairs are awkward. Standing is a nope most of the time. Car worked ok the one time we did that.
I’ve tried a few new positions. One he really liked a lot. It was reverse cowgirl but with me only straddling one of his legs. The other position was reverse cowgirl but with both my legs under his. I really like both of those but he struggled with the 2nd one.
His all time favorite position is regular cowgirl but it’s damn near impossible. I’ve always had trouble with it being a big girl & having really short legs. I’ve only ever had success riding really skinny guys. We both have a belly so me even getting my legs around him to straddle him is tough. Once I’m on I can hardly bounce because I’m too short & I can’t sit up for that reason & I’m really top heavy. I usually get up on my feet to bounce but god damn I get tired instantly.
I feel bad because he’s always doing all the work & he doesn’t get his favorite position much. I’ve asked him to request anything he wants to try but he hasn’t yet. Does anyone have any “fat” positions we can try??? Literally anything. He’s not bored & doesn’t have any complaints about doing all the work but I just want to incorporate more moves we can rotate.
To add: he’s 7 inches
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cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, cowgirl with you standing on the bed squatting. edge of the bed w/legs spread wide. bent over or on your knees doggie-style with your legs as wide as possible, your back arched, and your head on a pillow or the mattress.
7″ is a lot to work with and really a blessing. but, all the extra weight on both of you probably ends up with an actual 4″ or less that’s useful. both of you will never regret making lifestyle changes, losing weight, and getting more exercise. doing that will greatly improve every aspect of your life including sex.
Personally I think riding is easier if you have one knee down and the other up- think the “taking a knee” pose, but spread your legs horizontal. It gives you more leverage and control than kneeling without being as tiring as riding in a squatting position. That said, I’m more balanced between top and bottom than you seem to be, so that may help me, plus I have pretty strong legs, and I’m a few inches taller. Definitely practice moving in this position before trying to do it during sex, because riding cowgirl, especially when inexperienced or otherwise struggling with it, is the most common way penis injuries happen during sex.
I know you’ve said standing sex is a no go, but you might have luck with him sitting in a chair (maybe a dining room chair) with you over top of him. It’s like the squat riding but you get to extend your legs more, and you can maybe have a table or counter behind you to lean on for support as well.
A lot may also depend on your flexibility. I’m reasonably flexible for my size so one position that works is laying on my side while my partner holds one leg up at full extension, straddles my leg that’s resting in the bed, and goes in at that angle. It removes your tummy from the equation, and if you have some flexibility, larger thighs won’t be much of a problem either. However, getting down low may be an issue for him, in which case you could move towards the end of the bed and have him thrust from a standing position. He’d still be doing most of the work, but it would be easier