So I met this guy though tinder a couple weeks ago, at first though the Tinder chat we had an amazing chemistry I didn’t wanted to give him right away my Instagram or my phone number, so basically we texted there for a while, then I decided to give him my IG and then, though IG (which again we had an amazing chemistry) I decided to finally meet with him.
We decided to meet at a 7-Eleven that is not so far away from where I live, well since the very first time I met him I can clearly tell that he was a little bit anxious about talking to me because I thought we were going to stay at the 7-Eleven and we were going to have a coffee or something but basically we were just walking around the area from one place to another and not staying in one place… He would not stare at my face or anything.
Anyways, after that encounter I felt that it was a complete fail because to be honest I feel that he and I had more chemistry through text… Later that week he invited me to a gig of his (a stand up show) and at the very beginning of the night he was being also very shy and we were literally in the same room and he will text me “are you having a good time?” Like bro, I AM RIGHT NEXT TO YOU, Jesus.
After the gig, he literally introduced me to all his group of friends and then we went to a party and it was actually one of the best days I had for the last month… At some point during the night we had to take an Uber to go somewhere else and we were left alone and I gotta say that it was actually very cute… He hold me against his chest and hugged me, and we almost kiss… It was cute tbh.
But here’s the thing:
Since that party that I’m talking about he has become someone completely different… Now in 3 occasions that I have hang out with him and his group of friends (which apparently I am now a member of) he seems off… Like he doesn’t interact with me as much, I have confronted him two times about it while being drunk and he always tells me like: “what do you mean? I have talked to u all night…” THAT’S BS bro.
An important detail:
Literally true text he tells me a lot of stuff, like how pretty I am, that he loves my face and my eyes, he is the one that texts first the most even when I leave him on read…
Not so long ago he opened his heart to me through text and I’m not sure how to feel about it because at this point everything feels like he has a crush on me but I think at some point he backed up, he said:
– “I am so tired to be alone I wish I had a girlfriend”
-” always tired to be the one who invites the one who initiates the conversation with a girl”
– “I am always tired that I am the one who has to look for someone because otherwise no one will be staring at me”
And I was like “dåmn that’s rough” (I’m not sure if he wanted to tell me those things but he didn’t knew how to)
And well, just to summarize basically he has told me a lot of things through chat and in general I love the chemistry we have between us though chat.
BUT THEN REALITY HITS, and at this point when his girlfriend which now apparently is my new group of friends we have hangout a lot and we even went on a short trip not so long ago and every time I try to be alone with him and maybe perhaps talk about whatever like we do online, he literally doesn’t say anything he just stares at me or he’s just on his phone, and at this point I kind of want to smash my head against the wall because I don’t understand like he is not exactly shy but I can tell that he is very anxious, so at this point I’m really hurt because I did want it to maybe know him more but at this point I think I never will…
And well I have told this situation do a lot of my close friends most of them are male and they are telling me a lot of things that I’m not even sure if our true or not, the options are:
1. That he is too nervous to talk to me in person
2. That I am intimidating (which I don’t think I am, I am literally a 5’2 cinnamon roll)
3. That he is using the pull and push
4. He had a crush on me but at some point he backed up
Important detail #2: on that day that we had the conversation about that he was frustrated that he was always the one that has to start a conversation, he Said:
“Also the problem is not that people is completely not interested in me I know that they are interested in me it’s just that whenever I want someone they don’t want me, AND WHEN SOMEONE LIKES ME I DON’T WANT THEM, for me is difficult to process that someone gives me love”
So I guess at this point we are just hanging out with the whole group of friends but I don’t know why should I do now I think he’s really pretty and I am very sad that basically our whole connection is based on Chat and it will not go further than that…
Which is a shame cuz he is funny, charismatic, and very handsome
What should I do? Fr every time now that we see each other in real life is super uncomfortable.